A No 10 representative said “exceptionally enormous holes remain” yet talks will proceed, with a “firm choice” by Sunday on whether an arrangement can be reached.
Mrs von der Leyen said the different sides were still “far separated”.
Talks between the UK’s central moderator Lord Frost and the EU’s Michel Barnier will continue in Brussels later.
The two moderators likewise went to the three-hour supper meeting between the two chiefs.
The BBC’s Laura Kuenssberg said the night had “doubtlessly gone gravely” and the odds of the UK leaving the post-Brexit change period toward the year’s end without a firm game plan was a “major bit nearer”.
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Time is heading out to arrive at an arrangement before 31 December, when the UK quits keeping EU exchanging rules.
Significant contradictions stay on fishing rights, business rivalry rules and how an arrangement will be policed.
The supper was viewed as a last occasion to work through the primary staying focuses and for the different sides to attempt to locate some shared belief.
